Notices by 🍂🎃 spooky possum 🎃🍂 (glitterwitch@todon.nl)

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@GreenandBlack I'm lucky to have a reasonably progressive Farmer's Union chapter, so that's a good starting point. otherwise just going to potlucks and doing mutual aid is pretty acceptable to most folks, tho they might not use that term. many of them know the good that unions can do but have just been beat down by the last few decades.

my inability to stop opening cws has finally resulted in me seeing a surprise dick pic while half awake

I love it when tech bros try to come into conversations and act like their ideas are new or interesting in the least. you, yes the dude getting ready to reply guy, you are the reason we all hated Twitter. shut the fuck

#florespondence

@maloki *puts on headphones* why is no one talking to mee????

I will block every single angery vegan complaining about egging and milkshaking but only until the carceral white supremacist state falls. After that y'all can complain about eggs.

We could all just stop. We could decide to take care of each other and tear down the fences and never go to work again, but we have to do it together. We could bring the wheels of this monstrous war machine grinding to a halt, we could do it today.

I try to do small good things, but I'm continually overwhelmed by the sheer number of people in the world and the amount of horrible bullshit that USiasns perpetuate daily. Every social interaction, every idea, every organization is poisoned with liberal capitalist white supremacist bullshit. I want to love people, I want to celebrate humanity in its varied expressions, I want to be joyful and thankful, but what the fuck good does it do when 95% of my neighbors just keep polluting and abusing and plowing and not giving a single fuck

Casual reminder that some of the most harmful people I've ever interacted with have been queer/trans.
I was most hurtful to others when I leaned loudly into my white feminist nonsense and used my disabilities as an excuse.
Having a marginalized identity doesn't exempt you from self-work. If you want to change the world you've got to be fucking kind. It's hard work but it's worth it.

If you all don't start practicing empathy and active listening I swear to gods I will turn this revolution back around

Hello I love you. Each and every one. You deserve nice things and people who lift you up. You are stardust, made of the same things as the mountains and the trees.

"It's okay to rest" is a good sentiment, but it ignores the conditions in which most folks live, ie you cannot actually find space and time to rest without being accosted or going broke

Yes, I was loud and mean and emotional
Yes, I lied to avoid arguments at times
But mostly my crimes were being "too needy," or being rude in ways that were imperceptible to me at the time.
If someone had set me down and said "when you do x it makes others uncomfy, but here is a better way to make that need known" I would have immediately changed that behavior. Instead my then partner gave me the silent treatment in between accusations of how awful I was. They had their own shit, but I was fucking trying and they were not.
I have a long history of friendships ending in this same pattern it's exhausting. Thankfully i'm less angry and mean now, but that's only due to reading more books and :cannabis:

Here's the thing - in my experience there's a noticeable difference between people who have learned harmful coping mechanisms or bad relationship models, and people who are straight up narcissists, manipulators, or abusers.

But the /fun part is that ppl in the first group often make perfect targets for people in the second group. Victims already have anxiety and a desire to please. Then! The abuser will convince the victim that they are actually the one being unreasonable and manipulative.
The difference is that one person is trying their fucking best to not hurt anyone and they are being lied to and have poor resources, while the other is actively purposely manipulating them, and often does not regret this or find issue with it.

I hope this makes sense it's very close to my own trauma so words my be awkward.
If someone is telling you you're abusive, get outside help. It's almost impossible to remedy this kind of tangled mess w/o a counselor.

The only people i've met who use autism as an excuse to not do any personal work or to treat others like poop are white boys. The entitlement and social coddling combined with missing social cues is a perfect storm. I've met men like this who are proud of the fact that they're misanthropes, eerily similar to those suburban kids who are proud of never drinking water.

@chartier @maloki yes! I wish all public areas and events had these. I've been to conferences with quiet areas but they were not enforced and all the business fucks were using it as a mobile office

I love that i'm seeing more people, kids and adults, wearing isolation headphones in public. I assume the schools have finally caught on to the idea that our world is Too Loud for autistic and ADHD etc folks. One school I worked with even had a Quiet Room with foam and stim toys and noise reduction. 😍

Our concept of what is useful, productive, or worthwhile must radically change. In nature sitting around being yourself, following desires and instinct is exactly what is useful and needed. Evolution and change happen so slowly, so chaotically, who knows which random idea, art, or tool will become part of the next phase. All we can do is try to live well with each other and be good apes.

"Men, women, and enbies" still doesn't include everyone.
Enby is not a gender in itself, but rather a descriptor for many kinds of gender that are outside the m/f binary.
There are other genders that don't even reference this binary. There are genders from other cultures that function totally differently.
Plz listen to the folks saying this - enby is not and should not be "third gender" or a catchall for "other"
Thank you.